There's a saying that goes "There are many fishes in the sea". I believe this is related to relationship struggles. So why waste your precious time and youthfulness on a man who barely acknowledges you. One major thing women needs to know is that when a man loves you...he would show it and you would have to sweat or bend over backwards to find out if he does. Some women just don't know there worth..while others are just completely clueless about the fact that he's just not serious about them. Here are a few tips to know if you're currently wasting your time with that man.
1. He Hardly Calls.
Some guys have the perfect excuse for this. It's either they've been really busy or their grandmother's uncle's cousin's sister's brother's daughter's fish died and they couldn't make out time to call you or check on you or some silly excuse. I personally believe that when a guy genuinely cares for you, he would not only make out time for you but he'll also show you he cares. Especially if he claims he loves you. Love is a beautiful thing..trust me..it make people do crazy things and if he really loves you or care..he would at least call to hear your voice or know how your doing, no matter how busy he is. Besides, the 'I've been busy' excuse is so yesterday. As long as anyone on the face of the earth can sit in traffic for at least five minutes..there is time to call.
2. He's a Womanizer
This is a deal breaker for me. If you notice he can't keep his eyes of every pretty girl that walks by, or you constantly see him with different women, please leave. He hits on your friends, on the waitress, flirts with anything in skirts? Girl please! If your love truly is blind and you don't notice all that..please remove the blinders and wear goggles so you can see with your eyes wide open. That's totally disrespectful and no woman should ever have to go through that. I once had a friend in the University whose boyfriend had a girlfriend in almost every department. Of course her relationship was a joke to everyone but she kept hoping he'd change and stayed with him. He never did till they broke up. You're worth more than dating a cheat ladies...you can do better!
3. You don't know a thing about him
When you meet a Stranger..you get to know him first and vice versa before you two get comfortable with each other. But it doesn't stop there. You can't learn everything about someone in a day. It takes time. But when time has fled and you realize you still don't really know much about him like what he really does for a living, his close friends, what his family is like and stuffs like that even when you try to get him to talk he doesn't seem interested in spilling details...you realize he's probably still a stranger to you and if that isn't wastage of precious time I wonder what is.
4. He's doesn't seem to care
Lets say for instance, you're a journalist, and you cover such incredible stories and gush them out to him with excitement and he just looks at you like you're speaking Greek or he changes the topic before you're even done. If he does this constantly and doesn't care about what you do or support you..then you're pretty much on your own. You need someone who sees value in what you do and believes in your dreams not someone who yawns when you talk about your day.
5. He's Vain
He brags a lot about anything and everything that concerns him. In fact he feels you're lucky to have him and should kiss the ground he walks on. Most of this kind of guys are usually rich and feel the world in beneath them. He barely ask how you're doing before he drains you with how he's doing. He's just completely full of himself and there's no space there for you. If your man is like that or a guy you like is vain and egoistic..you need to bounce!
6. All he cares about is sex
If anytime he calls you is to have sex or you can't spend two minutes in his room without him always trying to ravage you. Then you probably are just a sex tool to him. Relationship is not always about sex. A man should be able to just hold you most of the time and tell you how much you mean to him or just talk. It's not always about sex. If he just calls you whenever he likes, only for sex then he sees you as a booty call and that is just the limit and you should not waste time being with him.
7. He rants constantly about his ex girlfriend.
Ex girlfriends and boyfriends are past tense. history! If he seems obsessed with bringing up his ex girlfriend every chance he gets then he's not ready to move on. Everything you do reminds him of his ex girlfriend, everywhere you both go reminds him of his ex girlfriend....then just ask him to go back to her because he probably doesn't even see you when you two are together, its probably her he sees. Find someone who who see you and make you feel like you're the only girl in the world and not he other girl.
Every woman deserves to be with her Knight in shining Armour and not end up with a frog who after thousands of kisses refuses to become a prince. Give your self a chance to find real love and if your man portrays any of this qualities I've listed then it's time to kick him to the curb.
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